"Today is a day to pause and remember." "Today is a day to give thanks for all of those who gave their lives to protect us." "Today is a day to honor those who gave their lives to keep us free.".... All of those phrases are true, yet how hollow those words really sound when they pertain to someone you knew and loved......
I didn't know him. But my mother did. My mother, who is now 82 years old and basically crippled and confined to her bed due to osteoporosis. But she wasn't always this way. Once she was a little girl growing up in the small town of Rutherfordton, N.C. Once she was a beautiful young girl who had long dark hair and luminous hazel eyes. Once she was a Majorette and twirled a baton for the high school band. Once she used to walk downtown to her daddy's drug store and sit at the soda fountain and order Cherry Coca Cola's with her friends............. And once she had a big brother named Boyce Pinckney Scruggs, Jr.
Boyce was three years older than she. And as far as big brothers went, "there were none better", she says. And she would know because a lot of her friends had older brothers, but none like him. He was tall, with a head full of light brown curls, and oh so handsome. I know because I've seen pictures of him. He made straight A's in school, was an Eagle Scout, and rode her on the handles of his bike when he needed to get her home quickly so she wouldn't be late. He had the most gorgeous smile and more friends coming and going in their house than you could count. Every one in town knew him and no one was surprised when he enlisted to fight overseas. The year was 1943. He had just turned 18.
My mother said her mother cried all the way to the train station when, as a family, they drove him to Charlotte to meet his train. The three of them, Boyce Jr., my mother, and their little sister Ann, sat in the back seat like they had as kids, while their daddy drove and their mother did her best not to cry in the front seat. She just couldn't understand why her son had enlisted and not just waited it out , to see if he would be drafted. But according to my mother he wanted to enlist so he could be in the air force and fly B17s. And that is what happened..... A long year later he was a 2nd Lieutenant , a pilot, and flying his own plane...." That Boyce Jr.! He's something else!" everyone in her small town said. They were all so proud!
But in April of 1944, one month before the war would end, they received the absolute worst news a family can receive. Boyce Jr. was shot down while flying his bomber in a mission over Germany. And just like that, just by hearing that one second piece of news, he was gone from them forever. Their pastor from the First Baptist Church, where her daddy was a deacon, came right away to give them comfort. He read to them from Proverbs 3:5-6, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." My mother said her mother, who taught Sunday School and sang in the choir, didn't want to hear that verse of comfort that night, and in fact for years was not the same, until finally, years later she was able to let him go. She struggled so in dealing with the fact that God had taken Boyce Jr., her one and only beloved son.
My mother said meal times were the hardest, for his chair sat empty at the table. His handsome smile, the sound of his voice, his teasing and jokes, his presence was no more. They left his room alone. His baseball pennants, his books and reading lamp, his Boy Scout badges, his bedspread and pillows, even the small black fan in his window all remained the same. But nothing would ever truly be the same again. Her big brother, her parents dearly cherished son, a community's hero, had given his life to keep us all free. Boyce Pinckney Scruggs, Jr. was dead. Buried in a soldiers cemetery with hundreds of other young boys and men in a country overseas. Boyce Jr. was 19.
So, it is on this Memorial Day I thank him. So young, younger in fact than any of my three sons are now. I thank him as I plan my holiday meal. I thank him that I can HAVE a holiday meal, and watch baseball, and fly the American flag. I thank him that my grown children are free. That we all, as Americans, are free...... To him, it was a cause worth giving his young life for. So, for that reason, and in his memory, I pray, "Oh, dear Lord, please don't let us stop loving and caring about America. Don't let us forget about honor and integrity, forget about the cost required to keep freedom alive and our homes safe. These are things Boyce Jr. fought for. It is things our soldiers fight for today. Let us truly stop, count the cost, and give thanks. And Father, as your child, I ask that America will humble itself, turn from it's lost ways and repent. For if we do, you promise You will once again be our God and heal our land." .....Amen
Boyce Jr. is alive and well, I am certain, living with our Heavenly Father whom he loved and trusted. And his name lives on through my second son, Boyce.